Understanding Hindu FamilyDharm
Value attached to the Seed
Hindu value system placed very high degree of importance to morality where a woman does not accept the seed form anyone other than her husband1.
1 We are talking of normal circumstances of life. We speak of rules not of exceptions!
Family structure, allocation of powers and responsibilities
Each family would have a head known as Karta whose decision would be final in case of family disputes and disagreements.
Just and fair to all
This authority would be vested in the Karta with the responsibility to be just and fair to all in the family, and not to base crucial decisions on personal preferences. In all his visible judgments and decisions, he would be expected to demonstrate justice and fairness.
Children learning to value those qualities
Children of the family would grow up ‘learning to value’ these qualities of justice and fairness. This process of living through just and fair dealings, would inculcate those qualities in them, through the course of their growing up process.
Exemplary conduct became their training ground
The exemplary conduct of the Karta of the family would be the foundation which would be the functional training ground for the next generation. This is how the love for truth and justice survived in Hindu society through ages.
Character building demands character display
But six generation of ChristianizedEnglish education has robbed it all and brought us down to their level. In Christian World you don’t find any such exemplary conduct. Poor them have been trying in vain using books as the vehicle to teach their children. They don’t realize the basic truth that character building demands character display!
This was a living reality of Hindu social life
This was a living reality of Hindu social life or else, different visitors from different nations over different centuries would not have mentioned so consistently of this quality among Hindus.
Now, it is quite true that during the two thousand years which precede the time of Mahmoud of Ghazni, India has had but few foreign visitors, and few foreign critics; still it is extremely strange that whenever, either in Greek, or in Chinese, or in Persian, or in Arab writings, we meet any attempts at describing the distinguishing features in the national character of the Indians (*Hindus), regard for truth and justice should always be mentioned first. INDIA what can it teach us? F Max Muller ISBN 0-14-100437-1 p 50
Hindu Joint Family structure and its Strengths
Returning to the Hindu family structure of earlier days, Karta would normally be the able-bodied able-minded eldest male member of the family. Position of authority and responsibility would be distributed in a hierarchical manner in the sense that elder the member greater the authority coupled with greater responsibility. Younger members would be groomed on the same pattern to learn to assume the authority as well as discharge corresponding responsibility, as they would grow up in the hierarchy.
Respect and responsibility went hand in hand
The respect for the elders would be an unwritten law, and it would be expected of all to observe it without any reservation. With that elders would have the equal amount of responsibility to stay worthy of such respect by their thoughts and actions. This would be the balancing factor for maintaining necessary equilibrium in the family.
Responsibility of adult male members
Adult male members of the family would have the responsibility of earning for the family to meet its needs, and to provide shelter and protection to the female members and children of the family.
Responsibility of adult female members
Female members would have the responsibility of taking care of the in-house needs of male members of family, and raising the kids in line with the culture and traditions of the family.
Responsibility of elder female members
Elder female members of the family would have the responsibility of grooming up the younger female members of the family in the desired direction.
Female members played crucial role through formative years of growing children
Each new generation would learn the family values from their mothers and grandmothers, and in this manner the female members of the family would play the crucial role through the formative years of growing children.
Religion would be essential part of family values
Spirituality would be an essential part of the family values, and women folk would be the custodian and deliverer of these values to each next generation through their growing up process.
Fidelity would be the norm
Single spouse system and fidelity would be the norm. Exceptions would be found in the context of political marriages where a king would offer his daughter to another king and thus, the two ruling families would unite and not be threat to each other. Such marriages would primarily be conducted for maintaining power-balance and political equilibrium. These would be exceptions not rule, and we have references to many kings having only one wife.
How Hindu family structure changed so drastically that now we hardly see much evidence of our earlier system
The whole system, however, changed after brutal onslaught of Islam and its direct interference in Hindu way of family life through forced conversions and forced marriages of Hindu girls and Hindu women into Muslim powerful families. This is when family values started deteriorating substantially though it did preserve a lot of it, as we can see from the testimonies of Sir Thomas Munro as presented below, even after thousand years of inhumane oppression that Max Muller called an inferno and wondered “how any nation could have survived such an inferno without being turned into devils themselves.”
If a good system of agriculture, unrivalled manufacturing skill, a capacity to produce whatever can contribute to either convenience or luxury, schools established in every village for teaching, reading, writing, and arithmetic, the general practice of hospitality and charity amongst each other, and above all, a treatment of the female sex full of confidence, respect, and delicacy, are among the signs which denote a civilized people – then the Hindus are not inferior to the nations of Europe, and if civilization is to become an article of trade between England and India, I am convinced that England will gain by the import cargo. Sir Thomas Munro, quoted in Mill’s History, vol. i. p. 371, re-quoted in INDIA what can it teach us? Max Muller ISBN 0-14-100437-1 p57 p231
The True Culprits have remained unidentified all along
There was so much of beauty left even until early 19th century that the eminent Governor
of the then Madras Presidency wrote:
If civilization is to become an article of trade between England and India, I am convinced that
England will gain by the import cargo.
Real downfall occurred during past 170 years
This would mean that real downfall has occurred during past 170 years. All factors remaining constant the only variable has been ChristianEnglish education system forcibly imposed on the Hindus by systematic elimination of ancient Hindu education system2.
2 Recommended further reading “That Unknown Face of Christianity”
Hindu Family Values were altered irreversibly only to fulfill the documented wishes of Jesus Christ— evidence follows
Hindu Family Values were totally transformed by the ChristianEnglish Education system, which was predominantly guided by the values propagated by Jesus Christ in the Christian Bible.
Oxford Dictionary describes
“New Testament” is the second part of the Christian Bible p 1249; “Gospel” is the record of Christ’s life and teachings in the first four books of the New Testament p 792; “St Matthew” was an Apostle, and the author of the first Gospel p 1143; “St Luke” was an evangelist, and the author of the third Gospel p 1099; “St Thomas” was an Apostle p 1928; “Apostle” Each of the twelve chief disciples of Jesus Christ is an Apostle p 77
Christian Bible New Testament Matthew
10:34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. 10:35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against the mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. 10:36 And a man’s foe shall be they of his own household. 10:37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me. 12: 30 He that is not with me is against me
Christian Bible New Testament Luke
12:51 Suppose ye that I am come to give peace on earth? I tell you, Nay; but rather division: 12:52 For from henceforth there shall be five in one house divided, three against two, and two against three. 12:53 The father shall be divided against the son, and the son against the father; the mother against the daughter, and the daughter against the mother; the mother in law against her daughter in law, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. 14:26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
[Nay a negative answer Oxford Dictionary p 1237]
Gospel of Thomas
16 Jesus said: Perhaps men think that I came to cast peace on the world; and they do not know that I came to cast division upon earth, fire, sword, war. For five will be in a house; there will be three against two and two against three, the father against the son and the son against the father. And they will stand because they are single ones. 56 Jesus said: He who will not hate his father and his mother cannot be my disciple. And he who will not hate his brothers and sisters, and carry his cross as I have, will not become worthy of me.
[Gospel of Thomas as quoted in The Myth of Saint Thomas and Mylapore Shiva Temple, p 76 n]
Understanding Jesus Christ’s hidden agenda
To understand Jesus’s agenda3, as documented in the pages of Christian Bible, you may want to study Christianity in a different Light.
3 Recommended further reading “That Unknown Face of Christianity”
They made you believe your social system was evil
Christian missionary educators taught the Hindus for past six generations and media experts created the image in the minds of the Hindus that ancient Hindu Joint Family structure was essentially an evil social structure.
Single-Parent Family becoming the norm in Christian World duly fulfilling documented wishes of their Messiah Jesus Christ
This paved the way for promoting Split Family structure which has now been refined to such levels that gradually Single Parent system is becoming the norm in the ChristianWorld that we mistakenly identify as Western world, and aping them faithfully we too are rapidly following their footsteps.
Marriages under Hindu Joint Family system vs. Modern marriages
Hindu Marriage was Union of two Families
Marriage was one of the most significant aspects of FamilyDharm. Marriage was not considered simply as union of two bodies. Marriage was a significant social event. It was union of two families and family traditions.
Many things were looked into before setting up marriage
Marriages were decided with great care. Several aspects were considered. Not only boy and girl were important, but their parents were also important; so were family lineage, parental characters, parental nature, their values, their traditions, their health, their history and so many things.
Today boy and girl argue we aren’t marrying our parents
Today boy and girl argue, why we need to look at parents, and what character and values they represent; we do not have to marry parents, we have to marry each other.
Sounds good but ignores science that they take pride in
Fine as it sounds, and nice as it feels, we tend to forget ‘science’ that we are so proud of, which has started understanding a little bit of the relevance of genes in human behavioral pattern.
Soon these lovebirds start splitting
The hereditary attributes play their role in the long run and we find these lovebirds start splitting after a while. Few years ago, I looked at divorce rates in North America exceeding 50%, while these statistics did not tell us the full story, for they covered only those who were legally married, and such couples often find separation and divorce process pretty demanding, considering future of children involved and therefore, not all broken marriages result in legal divorce.
Common-law unions
A very large segment of married couple in North America (I speak of Canada, and assume it would be same in USA) are those called common-law where the boy and girl live together like husband and wife, have children, file tax returns as common-law spouses, for most purposes they are like married couple except they are not legally married.
Failed unions
Most of them are youngsters who have not yet planned children, and these marriages break fairly easy as compared to legal marriages, for all they need is to split, and start living separate. These are high ratio cases. Thus, if we were to take these into account, then total divorces (where divorce would mean essentially all failed marriages), would probably exceed 75%.
Experiment with life that “Fails” ~ Christian World proudly calls it “Falling in Love”!
What a great system it is that does not stand the test of time, that does not stand the test of success in the desired venture that fails and fails, and finally gets reduced to multiple experiments with life! This, we call modern social structure, and we gloat at its supposedly advanced nature.
But their super inflated ego tells them we have progressed
There is lot to learn from the systems of olden days that we look down upon thinking we have progressed! Have we? Except that we satisfy our ego by consoling ourselves with such inflated self-estimates!
The Secret of Stable Hindu marriages of yesteryear
Great stability and high success rate
We may have occasionally heard about extraordinary accomplishments of Hindu mathematics. The ChristianWorld, however, prefers to attribute them to the Greeks and (pre-Islamic) Arabs who basically imported the knowledge from the Hindus4 and then popularized with the people of Europe.
The foundation of FamilyDharm was on the premises of the institution of marriage. Arranged marriages demonstrated great stability and reflected high success rate.
4 Details in “Do your History textbooks tell you these Facts?”
Mathematical Module Applied to Human Lives
This was ensured by a meticulous system of mathematics applied to human lives. Based on time and place of birth of a human being, it could calculate with fair amount of accuracy the life span of the individual. This helped match-making in a manner that one of the spouses does not have to live very long without the other.
Module calculated Ego levels of the marrying couple
The system could calculate the ego development of the marrying partners. This helped match-making with due caution to conflicting egos between the boy and the girl in consideration.
Module calculated magnetic appeal between the two
The system could calculate with fair amount of accuracy the degree of magnetic control or amenability either spouse will have on the other. This helped match-making with a view to harmony between the two.
Module calculated sexual compatibility in physical and emotional context
The system could calculate with considerable accuracy the sexual compatibility between the boy and girl in question. This helped match-making with regard to this very essential factor in a satisfying marriage. The system considered sexual compatibility in physical as well as emotional context.
Sounds incredible?
It may be difficult for modern people to visualize that a mathematical system could be capable of ascertaining such details without reference to medical and psychological systems.
How could they have adopted something from Heathens?
Well, that difficulty in perception is natural because modern education system has not tried to evolve mathematical modules applied to human lives. It has not tried so because the modern Christian education system is based on an inflated ego that it has nothing to learn from ancient Hindu systems. Idolater Hindus are heathen to ChristianWorld.
After all modern science is brainchild of Christian World
More significantly, the modern education system is based on knowledge base of the ChristianWorld, which would not want to entertain the thought that Hindu world could have had better developed modules for social, economical, judicial and other processes.
Module calculated psychological dispositions of the intended couple
Returning to the mathematical system we have been referring to, it had developed the capability of determining the psychological dispositions of the intended couple. This helped in (a) ascertaining mental qualities and (b) estimating likely affection for each other, this being very significant element in match-making.
Module calculated temperament of the couple concerned
Then the system calculated the temperament and character of the couple concerned where compatibility of temperament was looked at for a satisfactory marriage union.
Module looked into nervous energy indicating physiological and hereditary factors
Finally, system looked at nervous energy indicating the physiological and to certain extent hereditary factors. This helped match-making with a view to the children that would be borne of such couple, for a marriage was not meant only for the present generation but also for the future generation of the society to come.
Module widely followed by Hindu society produced desired result through millenniums
All these factors could be translated into mathematical module because the Creation and maintenance of this Universe itself works on a mathematical module of high precision. The method was widely followed and its results have shown over thousands of years of its application.
Christian Missionary educators did not want to understand high level Math - they taught our children it was superstition
In modern times its use has dwindled, for an image has been successfully created that whatever modern Christian education system does not teach us is essentially superstitious. The result of our modernity has already started showing on our present day family structure.
The technique was not an end in itself
Here, you need to understand another fundamental relating to this Creation. That is: nothing is stand alone in isolation to the exclusion of everything else. Do not think that any one aspect of esoteric knowledge would suffice for you to understand the entire gamut of complexities involved in the process of Creation.
Simply put you need to understand that the module I spoke of ~ applied mathematics to human lives ~ is not stand alone. Its well understood application does ensure substantially a stable married life but in itself, it is not the only means to that end.
Different modules complement each other
Election of the right partner at the initial stage by application of that mathematical module can ensure a stable beginning and a stable journey but then that needs to be complemented with some other equally significant modules relevant to human lives. You cannot ignore other modules and expect the entire fruit by sticking to only one.
Esoteric knowledge that graduated to the State of Art
There are several aspects of esoteric knowledge that have not only remained limited within the boundaries of Science but graduated beyond to the State of Art where they have become relevant to human lives in manners that you may not begin to think because your ChristianEnglish educators have systematically buried them over the past two centuries. I am not going to discuss them here but I will return with them someday.
In the age of quick fixes
In today’s circumstances this clarification is all the more necessary because it is the age of quick fix where every one tends to look for an allopathic medicine for every headache ~ a pill that would instantly relieve you of the headache not bothering to fix the root problem.
For six generations you have been told it’s all superstition
Besides, the close association with and total dependence on ChristianEnglish education system for six generations has made us not only forget those essentials but also treat them as meaningless superstitions because an ignorant education system can give you no better knowledge.
A culture that cares not to understand Mother Nature
A culture that cares not to understand Mother Nature but only attempts to conquer it like all arrogant fools do can give you no better understanding of matters that truly affect your lives.
Trial and error and money making racket
All they do is whole lot of trial and errors and give them impressive names like psychiatry and various derivatives of those kinds which are nothing but a huge money making racket in the name of scientific education.
How we lost all that?
• ChristianBritish systematically destroyed ancient Hindu education system2.
• They withdrew all Treasury support towards any form of education that remotely related to
Hindu system.
• Through ChristianEnglish education system they filled the minds of Hindu children that all
of Hindu system of knowledge was nothing but superstition.
2 Details in “Do your History textbooks tell you these Facts?”
Through six generations of ChristianEnglish education you have learned to think of them as superstition
• Superstition is something that you believe in blindly
• Aren’t you doing the same thing?
• Didn’t you believe blindly what those ignorant ChristianBritish educators told you?
• Neither did they examine the validity of Hindu branches of knowledge, nor did you examine
them.
• And, you blindly believed them all to be superstition.
• This belief of yours ~ isn’t it a superstition by itself?
• They killed our knowledge base, they let it get lost.
• If few kept it alive through generations without adequate support system and if they lost
most of it, you call them quacks.
Who is responsible for the degeneration of Hindu knowledge base?
• Are these whom you call quacks?
• Or, are those who methodically wiped it out over the period of time?
And it is my firm conviction that there is urgent need for protection of Sanaatan Dharm Hinduism
O Pritha’s son, Arjun! You do not have to be a coward as this does not speak well of you.
O Paramtap! Give up this contemptible infirmity of your heart and mind, and get up to fight the battle for protection of Dharm!
Pleasure and pain, loss and gain, victory and defeat ~ treat them all as same and get ready for battle.
By doing so you won’t commit a sin.
Shrimad BhagavadGita, Adhyaay 2 Shlok 3 & 38