Hindu Marriage was Union of two Families
Marriage was one of the most significant aspects of FamilyDharm. Marriage was not considered simply as union of two bodies. Marriage was a significant social event. It was union of two families and family traditions.
Many things were looked into before setting up marriage
Marriages were decided with great care. Several aspects were considered. Not only boy and girl were important, but their parents were also important; so were family lineage, parental characters, parental nature, their values, their traditions, their health, their history and so many things.
Today boy and girl argue we aren’t marrying our parents
Today boy and girl argue, why we need to look at parents, and what character and values they represent; we do not have to marry parents, we have to marry each other.
Sounds good but ignores science that they take pride in
Fine as it sounds, and nice as it feels, we tend to forget ‘science’ that we are so proud of, which has started understanding a little bit of the relevance of genes in human behavioral pattern.
Soon these lovebirds start splitting
The hereditary attributes play their role in the long run and we find these lovebirds start splitting after a while. Few years ago, I looked at divorce rates in North America exceeding 50%, while these statistics did not tell us the full story, for they covered only those who were legally married, and such couples often find separation and divorce process pretty demanding, considering future of children involved and therefore, not all broken marriages result in legal divorce.
Common-law unions
A very large segment of married couple in North America (I speak of Canada, and assume it would be same in USA) are those called common-law where the boy and girl live together like husband and wife, have children, file tax returns as common-law spouses, for most purposes they are like married couple except they are not legally married.
Failed unions
Most of them are youngsters who have not yet planned children, and these marriages break fairly easy as compared to legal marriages, for all they need is to split, and start living separate. These are high ratio cases. Thus, if we were to take these into account, then total divorces (where divorce would mean essentially all failed marriages), would probably exceed 75%.
Experiment with life that “Fails” ~ Christian World proudly calls it “Falling in Love”!
What a great system it is that does not stand the test of time, that does not stand the test of success in the desired venture that fails and fails, and finally gets reduced to multiple experiments with life! This, we call modern social structure, and we gloat at its supposedly advanced nature.
But their super inflated ego tells them we have progressed
There is lot to learn from the systems of olden days that we look down upon thinking we have progressed! Have we? Except that we satisfy our ego by consoling ourselves with such inflated self-estimates!